Owning My Bigotry

I am a white male from a small village in North Wales, UK. Soon, I will be marrying a white American female. I am a step-parent of a young child who I get along with very well; we are a very close family who always strives to support each other unconditionally in any way possible.

Being Welsh, I was born within the NHS. The NHS personally provided me with a normal life free of many medical complications and bills often associated with diastrophic dysplasia, a rare and complicated form of dwarfism. My parents were able to live and provide on a single income while my mother spent a lot of my childhood with me while I had numerous surgeries, suffering from no financial burden or medical bills thanks to the NHS.

Even though I have mostly been living in a small country which is mostly white, I was raised to respect everyone and treat people equally, no matter their walk of life. I have been blessed to have many opportunities in life, thing’s I thought I’d never do including being on TV, owning and operating my own small business, working with other small businesses, traveling internationally… I may not have always lived a life of luxury, but what I’ve had is a lot more than many people.

Issues I don’t face but many do.

Rarely am I ever confronted with any form of judgement. I have tattoos, piercings, and occasionally even have bright hair. And sure, some people may comment and be stereotypical or make generalizations about me due to my looks, but once folks get to know me personally, even skeptics tend to get past those judgements. For a lot of people this isn’t as easy. There are people in my country who are confronted with judgement every day, that with living in such a small and conservative area. People of color, LGBTQIA folks, those with invisible disabilities, those who practice particular religions, and immigrants all face struggles I have never and will never deal with.

As a disabled person, I am lucky to be able to work independently for myself as well as help provide for my family. However, it isn’t uncommon for disabled people to struggle to find work and provide. Among many inequalities in the workplace, businesses don’t like going out of their way to make work premises accessible because it requires money, time, and resources they aren’t usually willing to spare. Also, in many cases, you’ll find that disabled people have legal limitations in the workplace, restricting the amount of time they are allowed to work, and their income; yes, this means businesses are legally obligated to pay a disabled person LESS than (often less than half, actually) minimum wage.

I recognise my bigotry but I am working on it.

Even though I have opened my eyes in ways I had not before, I still have a long way to go. Sometimes I get my gender pronouns wrong, unintentionally, because its something I am deliberately un-learning. I still sometimes judge others for being different without even thinking ahead because it is something I have grown up doing. I don’t experience or put up with the situations people of color, LGBT, immigrants etc go through on a regular basis, I am ignorant because my nature thus far in my life has been to ignore what “doesn’t concern myself” when actually, it should absolutely concern me. It’s a lesson I am gradually learning by being in and around people who are different from me, who experience these racial slurs and disrespectful opinions and inequalities on a daily basis.

Recognising my Privileges

I also recognise that I am inherently privileged by things such as my skin colour, gender, and healthcare. These privileges have been with me from birth and are not granted by my own effort or wealth. I strive to use these privileges to be a voice of reason to those who may not understand or have the same privileges as myself.

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Phil Lusted

Hello! I’m Phil, a blogger and designer from North Wales, UK. When I am not busy working I love to spend time with my family, eat pizza and watch plenty of Netflix.

  • Pamela
    Posted at 02:47h, 25 July Reply

    You always know how to express things in a way that I can relate to them. It also helps have a clearer view on thinks that I judge unfairly… Thanks Phil for being the man you are…….

  • Annette Wade
    Posted at 09:31h, 25 July Reply

    I found your comments very interesting and informed, You certainly deserve a happy, healthy life and I’m proud to have known your lovely family especially your grandma who loves you very much. It’s amazing what you’ve achieved despite everything. God bless always. May your life together be a good long one.

  • Michelle P Delpeche
    Posted at 15:36h, 26 July Reply

    Excellent xxx

  • Karen Scullard
    Posted at 16:00h, 31 August Reply

    As usual Phil, an interesting and thought provoking read. Thanks. Love to you all. X

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