Putting Purpose In My Choices

As I prepared to write this, I realised a lot of things have been playing on my mind for the last few days. This article is about a few things I need to get out of my system as well as something that needs to be shared so everyone knows where I stand.

“Love Does”

A lot has changed over the last year, where do I start? Just after Christmas 2016, I bought myself a new book, Bob Goff’s “Love Does”. I had already heard a lot about Bob through twitter, reading his quotes on love and God’s grace, and it was this specific topic that urged me to pick up his book. It has inspired me and taught me so much about love and patience.

Bob explains how his Christian friend Randy helps him on numerous occasions with his life, shows him love and never questions Bob. Instead, Randy supports Bob and reminds him that he will be by his side no matter the situation he may run into. I thought this was awesome; Bob had a real friend in Randy and it made me think, “I need to be more like this Randy guy.”

Conversations With Kathleen

God surely has blessed me with Kathleen. Its been almost 12 months now, she has shown me a level of love and patience I have never received or experienced before. Kathleen and I often sit down and talk about our lives and issues we have gone through in the past. We also talk about other people, some whose lives may be less fortunate than ours, in many ways and perspectives, and I’ve learned so much from this.

Opening My Eyes To Diversity

One of the biggest eye-openers I had when visiting Seattle the first time was how comfortable people were with expressing themselves through their appearance. I’ve not seen that before like I had in Seattle. Despite having lived in two countries and traveling to several, nowhere else seemed to be so casual about what others wore or how they expressed themselves, it wasn’t “wrong” or “obscene” to see anyone who dressed any which way. Nobody seems to care what religion or sexuality you are, everyone gets to be equal there. I felt like I fit in perfectly.

When I began realising how “at home” I felt that, even though this place was a whole new world, I really appreciated the freedom of expression in this city. With the differences so loudly displayed, my mind started to question what I had always known. A year ago, I had no strong feelings about or towards people who were very different from myself. I knew what I knew to be true and just, but never went out of my way to really think and reflect on it otherwise, or what my life and experiences meant to others.

Putting More Consideration Into Others

I feel like up until this point in my life, I can’t say I always looked at things for others before I looked at them for myself. This kind of thinking was ok for myself, but not necessarily to others. Sometimes we can all be too focused on our own motives, we forget the effects our choices have on others.

As time has passed this year, I’ve realised I need to consider others when it comes to situations that aren’t significant to me as it would be quite hypocritical of me to vote against the basic human rights of friends. Imagine if someone told you that you were no longer allowed to marry the love of your life, or that you weren’t allowed to pursue a better home or career. These are all basic human rights that are up for debate right now for many people, and even though I’m not the one having these rights questioned to be taken away, I’d be upset if anyone told me these things. Even when I don’t understand or agree with an issue, it is not my place to take away the rights and wellbeing of others.

“Some of my choices directly robbed people of basic human rights; no part of my faith or conscience intended on hurting others, but it was exactly what my choices were doing.”


Every day I am trying to better myself on these tough topics, to widen my perspective, to become more understanding towards things, to view things from other peoples’ shoes, to be a voice to those who fear losing their human rights, even if some of these things don’t affect me.

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Phil Lusted

Hello! I’m Phil, a blogger and designer from North Wales, UK. When I am not busy working I love to spend time with my family, eat pizza and watch plenty of Netflix.

  • James Bowyer
    Posted at 13:52h, 25 April Reply

    Ever since I got to know u through Facebook it’s been a pleasure watching the journey that yourself and Kathleen are on is brilliant I do hope one day we can meet say hello have a coffee and a chat ❤️

  • Annette Wade
    Posted at 14:23h, 25 April Reply

    Interesting and so right ☺

  • Pamela
    Posted at 15:35h, 25 April Reply

    Well said Phil. I have been one of my those people that have voted and sided with my right or wrong opinion on issues. The ugliness people show on both side of an issue has opened my eyes that I need to change how I look at others… On my first trip to Seattle it was a culture shock to me. It took me a while not to stare at the males dressed like Dorothy from the “Wizard of Oz” etc. I want to thank both you and Kathleen for helping me to just love and accept people for who they are…

  • Karen Scullard
    Posted at 17:43h, 25 April Reply

    Another great piece of insightful writing 👍

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